Joseph
Francis (Frank) Carver passed away peacefully on March 4, 2008 two days after
his 85th birthday.
Born On March 2, 1923 in Willsboro, N.Y. Frank was the son of Bridget Judge
Carver and Francis Carver. The loss of his father at age two, growing up on a
dairy farm in isolated upstate, New York, and the small close-knit
Irish-Catholic parish of Holy Angels would shape Frank's early years. This
seeded in him a love for nature, commitment to church and community, and faith
in mankind.
In 1940 Frank headed off to college at the University of Notre Dame, in an
important decision that would take him 900 miles from the farm. Coursework in
philosophy catalyzed an emerging belief in progressive Catholic social activism
that would open his world and set his life course. Many of the priests-his
professors- would become lifelong friends and spiritual guides. When he
graduated from Notre Dame in 1944 it was with a deep love and gratitude for the
college that had given him so much. The experience nurtured a lifelong quest for
knowledge, justice and peace.
In 1949 Frank met the love of his life, Mary Herman at a retreat for Catholic
action and they were married in 1950. Children would quickly follow, and in 1960
with a wife and eight children Frank decided to change careers and go into
teaching. It was this first teaching position that brought the Carver family to
Trumansburg, N.Y.
Nestled in the heart of downtown T-burg, the family settled into the house by
the waterfall that Frank would turn into a nature's wonderland for his children
to grow up. The property became a gathering place for the neighborhood- with
rope swings in the trees, monorails to ride from hillside to hillside across the
creek, games of tag at night, ice skating on the creek, and a sledding trail
stretching from the top of the driveway down the lawn, over a hand-crafted log
ramp, and far down the creek- all engineered by Frank.
Frank was active in politics and the church, and strived to live the fullness of
his faith each and every day. Frank stopped for anyone stranded on the side of
the road, befriended the down-trodden, ministered to prisoners, worked
diligently for Christian non-violence, and struggled to practice Gospel
non-violence which he believed in deeply.
After Frank's retirement from teaching he didn't let the disability of growing
hearing loss get in the way of even greater activism. His hitch hiking odysseys,
very often with only change in his pockets and faith in the kindness of
strangers, took him all over the country for religious pilgrimages, peace
witnesses and civil disobedience. He shared Dr. Martin Luther King. Jr.'s dream
of a world free from Christian support for any killing.
Continuing a strong love of Notre Dame, Frank helped to found Notre Dame
PeaceNet with a group of fellow alums in the early 1990s. The goals Of ND
PeaceNet are to end the presence of ROTC on the Notre Dame campus and to
establish a chair in Christian non-violence.
Most important to Frank were his children and immediate family who he loved very
much, and in whose character and accomplishments he took immense pride.
Family includes his beloved wife Mary and his eleven children (and in-laws) and
twelve grandchildren: Mike, Mark (Linda) Scibilia-Carver and children
Christopher (Joselyn Lutter) and Danny, Angela and children Regan and Ben,
Francis, Brigid Hubberman (Alan) and children Meg (Cliff) Coleman, Josh, Sarah
and Jeff, Basil (Barbara Amtower), Mary Schwartz (Arnie) and children Lauren and
Chelsea, René (Emily Parker) and children Jacob and Hannah, Regis and Clare,
John (deceased). They share and continue his deep commitment to making a
difference- working for a more just and peaceful world.
While he leaves few material possessions, Frank's legacy to his family, church
and community will be in the example of the way he lived his faith, and stood up
for what he believed in despite the cost.
A Funeral Mass for Frank will be celebrated on Saturday, March 8 at 10:00 am at
St. James Catholic Church, 17 Whig St., in Trumansburg. The family will receive
friends and Frank stories at a luncheon at the church following the service.
Arrangements are being made by the Ness-Sibley Funeral Home. Frank's family
plans to have an additional celebration of his life this spring.
In lieu of flowers the family asks that contributions be made to causes dear to
Frank's heart, including: Notre Dame PeaceNet c/o Laurie Konwinski 302
Cascadilla St., Ithaca; Loaves and Fishes, 210 N. Cayuga St., Ithaca; and Family
Reading Partnership, 54 Gunderman Rd., Ithaca, NY 14850
His family also asks that if your life was touched in any way by Frank Carver
that you extend a kindness or take action in his name. In Frank's honor actively
love your family; be kind to strangers; lend an ear; give a hand; stand up for
what you believe in; read to children; take care of our good earth; and
especially, fight for peace. In his absence we know he would also appreciate if
you would also cheer, cheer for his 'ole Notre Dame.
Now let's all hope that God enjoys a good debate.